tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post995284961297742844..comments2024-03-28T17:53:43.541-04:00Comments on DarwinCatholic: Time is a Funny ThingDarwinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08572976822786862149noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-54778235109698167932013-12-30T20:27:07.642-05:002013-12-30T20:27:07.642-05:00Congratulations on Baby William. Been too aghast a...Congratulations on Baby William. Been too aghast at the story to say anything. Never been there. Never done that. Sounds awful. LoisLois in Indynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-87389755530708306682013-12-30T19:41:14.685-05:002013-12-30T19:41:14.685-05:00As long as you are mad about the fading memory, yo...As long as you are mad about the fading memory, you should be fine. You will know you are getting in trouble when you start to think the fateful words, "Well that wasn't really so bad..."Jennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-78901209198931694302013-12-30T17:47:33.808-05:002013-12-30T17:47:33.808-05:00Bearing, too soon! You can't read someone else...Bearing, too soon! You can't read someone else's labor story until you're at least three days postpartum yourself. :)<br /><br />Congratulations, Rebekkah! Screaming "no" sounds like an entirely reasonable coping mechanism to me. I did find myself, when someone told me, "Just one more push and he'll be out," responding, "I can't!" even as I was pushing. It was more of an existential protest than anything. And he wasn't born on the next push, either.<br /><br />What makes me mad is that even only five days later the rawness of the memory is fading, even though I'm trying to hold onto it as a talisman against this ever happening again. If only William weren't so ponderously serious all the time! He's cracking me up.MrsDarwinhttp://darwincatholic.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-82979255023625429452013-12-30T17:05:27.609-05:002013-12-30T17:05:27.609-05:00I keep coming back and reading this and wanting to...I keep coming back and reading this and wanting to say something and coming up short. This is stark and immediate and reminds me of those moments where I thought I might not go on, where the effort required to complete a sentence is too much to demand. I remember the pain of what turned out to be Marian's terrible elbow and the reoccurring back labor. The memory of the pain fades so quickly, but there, through the fog, it's there. It happened. <br /><br />My water has always broken before the contractions start so that cushioning fluid is usually long gone by the time things get serious. Grinding is an apt word. I'm sad to say that I never remember to pray during labor. I know I should and I always mean to do it, but when the moment comes, my mind never moves beyond the screaming pain of it all. I can only hope that intending to offer it up and actually offering it come close to the same thing.<br /><br />Enjoy the sweet smell of newborn baby head for as long as you can.Jennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-60760431511290034862013-12-30T16:15:03.757-05:002013-12-30T16:15:03.757-05:00Been there twice (#5 and #6) and you evoke it so c...Been there twice (#5 and #6) and you evoke it so clearly I'm crying and shaking from the stirred-up memories. I was three days before really bonding with #5 - so much trauma to work through, even though, like yours, it was an "unremarkable" birth. Unremarkable hell. Four years later I did it again, but the agony (though objectively worse) wasn't such a shock, and I was able to look at and rejoice in the baby after only about half an hour. (He's 6 months old now, and the adored pet of our whole family.)<br /><br />I had a painless birth, too, like you describe, with #4. Why is it some times this way and some times that way with the same body? So strange, isn't it?<br /><br />But all this is really just a preamble to saying, THANK YOU for the conclusion, for articulating so very well the pain v. joy dilemma; your words are helping me heal and understand a little more. I will pray for you!Finicky Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096968677045137455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-81652203623093326312013-12-30T06:11:36.763-05:002013-12-30T06:11:36.763-05:00Well, we can definitely see why the Church in the ...Well, we can definitely see why the Church in the past referenced Deborah and other female heroes of war in the churching blessing for mothers.<br /><br />Bansheehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12594214770417497135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-84272252276620919232013-12-29T14:20:20.057-05:002013-12-29T14:20:20.057-05:00Such good work here--in words and and in baby! Such good work here--in words and and in baby! These Boys' Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04703876506790106896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-47854223721198685602013-12-29T12:41:23.636-05:002013-12-29T12:41:23.636-05:00I don't think my labor must have been anywhere...I don't think my labor must have been anywhere near as bad as MrsD's even at the peak, but it had its moments. I tried a few Hail Marys, and remembered to offer the pain for other people, but mainly my coping technique was to tell myself that the pain was going to push away all the fear that I had been living with for the past week. And it did--pushed it out of my mind and pushed the baby out where I could see that he was healthy and safe.bearinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07953735060133330755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-5708084379529243262013-12-29T12:18:41.587-05:002013-12-29T12:18:41.587-05:00I think I've read this about six times already...I think I've read this about six times already. The incredibly effective anesthetic blockades I had the first time around left me completely unprepared for this time, with the too fast to be anything but natural approach. It still feels confusing and overwhelming two weeks later - and you've managed to reflect coherently and articulately on your worst labor after three days! <br /><br />Can I also just mention how impressed I am with either your presence of mind or sheer force of habit, actually managing to pray during the nasty bits. My coping technique involved, embarrassingly, yelling "no, no, no!" at the top of my lungs. Rebekkanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-79898547058871845622013-12-28T23:15:42.085-05:002013-12-28T23:15:42.085-05:00Was moved by your story, congrats on the lovely ba...Was moved by your story, congrats on the lovely baby!!<br /><br />HGAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-23657414416419313852013-12-28T22:10:35.622-05:002013-12-28T22:10:35.622-05:00The painless labor is mystifying to me... but this...The painless labor is mystifying to me... but this story--I can relate to.<br /><br />He's wonderful, and so are you.BettyDuffyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17130418609022759086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-85556014291731947322013-12-28T22:03:00.638-05:002013-12-28T22:03:00.638-05:00Wow! I had one labor like that and have no profoun...Wow! I had one labor like that and have no profound conclusions to draw. It was. He is. <br /><br />Good job, mom! May you have a gentle recovery.Kelly @ In the Sheepfoldhttp://inthesheepfold.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-42235987725879222292013-12-28T21:45:11.780-05:002013-12-28T21:45:11.780-05:00I'm going to cry.I'm going to cry.bearinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07953735060133330755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13522238.post-78919521492646687792013-12-28T20:50:32.526-05:002013-12-28T20:50:32.526-05:00Oh, my, but this is good!
My #4 was big (9 lb 2oz...Oh, my, but this is good!<br /><br />My #4 was big (9 lb 2oz, about 6 lbs of which was her head), and I passed out between contractions. I'm still left wondering about that experience, twelve years later. Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06668252458131596362noreply@blogger.com