It’s common to assume that things spoken in anger or without thought are the truest — they seem like little biopsies of the soul, letting you see what’s really underneath. But I hold strongly to the position that artifice counts as authentic, when it’s deliberately chosen. The person who’s boiling with anger and chooses not to give it free rein is being truthful when they don’t lash out at me — I’m getting a glimpse at what they’ve chosen to do with the raw stuff of their reaction.
Christmas Eve Eve Notes
7 hours ago
1 comment:
Oh, neat. I like it. Anger seems truthful because people often lie and anger disarms them or exposes them in a way. But things said out of anger are irrational, at least in part, and so in that sense less ours. They are less true.
Weird that we would want to know what people would say at their worst, when they are not really thinking, as if that were most representative.
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