As Isaac Pollak, an ardent Republican, kissed his wife goodbye before heading out on a business trip to Asia several years ago, he handed her his absentee ballot for the coming presidential election and asked her to mail it.
Bonnie Pollak, a Democrat, weighed her options. Should she be loyal to her spouse, respect his legal right and mail the ballot? Or remain faithful to her deeply held beliefs and suppress his vote?
"It was a real dilemma," says Ms. Pollak, 58 years old, a student in a doctoral program in social welfare who lives in Manhattan. "I decided to do the right thing."
Ms. Pollak threw the ballot away.What an ugly little story. I don't think that a couple has to agree on politics to have a happy marriage -- after all, there is room for prudential judgment on how certain issues are to be addressed -- but this woman's blatant disregard for her husband's trust is breathtaking. The problem here is not that two people on opposite sides of the political spectrum are married to one another, but that the politics are more important than the marriage.